Lesson Learned.

When I was 16 I got my first job at Joyce Leslie.  I think that’s when I started to fall in love with fashion.  I loved being around clothes all the time & being one of the first girls in high school to start new trends.  I remember I was one of the first to wear a one shoulder sleeve shirt and a denim jumpsuit when those were in style.  But I never wanted anyone to wear the same clothes as me.  There’s a story that my best friend likes to tell to this day.  She always teases me about it. Even her mother brings it up to me from time to time and we all have a good laugh.

Back in high school before we became so close, she came to school wearing the same dress as me.  I made a huge deal about it, told everyone that she was copying me, she cried and left school early.  It’s funny now to look back at how I acted over something so stupid.  But it was mean and it relates to today and how a lot of people still act believe it or not.  The stores that you shop at are all around the world.  The chances of you wearing the same thing as someone else are very high, especially if you have a similar sense of style.  I know of a few occassions where I went to a wedding & a party wearing the same exact dress as another girl.  And yeah, it can be a little embarrassing at first but you get over it.  If you give the same exact outfit to two different people, I guarantee that each of them will wear it in completely different ways.  Why do you think they have “Who Wore It Best?” in those celeb magazines?

I hear & see things frequently from girls saying that so and so is “copying their style” etc.  Who really cares though? Did it ever occur to you that maybe your style influences other people to go out and get the same things as you?  If anything, you should take that as a compliment. Back then I wanted to be the first and the only one to wear certain things, but that just isn’t possible.  We all get inspired and influenced from other people.  You will never be the first to wear something unless you yourself has created it.  That’s the whole reason why I started this blog in the first place.  I don’t care if anyone goes out and buys the same things that I have or wears a similar outfit.  This is why I write all of the places that I buy my clothes from.  I actually want to inspire and influence you to wear similar things so that it can help you find your own personal style.  And it’s ok to not always wear designer shoes & clothes.  I’m not sure why that has to be of so much importance to some people.  Of course it’s nice to treat yourself when you can, but you shouldn’t be ashamed that you found something great at a cheaper store.  If you like it & you’re comfortable wearing it, then please do so and be confident about it.  I love when I find things at thrift shops.  It sort of relates to the saying “One man’s trash is another man’s treasure.”  Some people get rid of items that you can do amazing things with, like my favorite statement necklace 🙂

If you’re a trend setter, then OWN it.  There’s no need to make other people feel bad because they got influenced by your unique sense of style.  It’s petty and insignificant, but unfortunately there are still a lot of people out there like this.   There’s much more important things to worry about.  This is just something that I have been thinking about it and I wanted to share with you all, especially because I used to be that girl! Lesson learned. 🙂 xo


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