Life Chats

Before I get into this post, I wanted to ask you guys for some feedback.  Do you like this “Life Chats” series being once a week or is it too much?  Would you rather it be twice per month?  I personally enjoy doing this once a week and from the feedback either on here or via social it seems most of you do as well, but I don’t want to overwhelm anyone with these personal posts either.  So just drop a comment below and let me know your thoughts. 🙂 

For the first time in the last couple of months, I woke up today with a lot of peace in my heart.  I feel extra thankful and so appreciative.  I just feel good.   It’s crazy how we can feel so down and out about stuff one week and then the next we come out of it feeling better than ever!  It happens and it is possible.  I think I was struggling internally with things without actually trying to change them.  We all do that.  We complain or we feel a certain way about our lives, but then we don’t do anything about it.  Things keep piling up, we play the victim, we start thinking negatively and then {BOOM!} we are stuck in a rut.  I was in and out of that rut for most of this year as I have mentioned previously. In some way, writing these posts and sharing my private thoughts and feelings with you all has been extremely therapeutic for me and it’s kind of forced me to really focus more on whatever it is that had me feeling down and out.  Over the last few weeks I have made a conscious effort to make more changes and take control again. While things are nowhere near perfect, I already feel like I am in a much better place than I was a few months ago.  How did I do it?  I literally woke up one morning recently and said “F*ck this.  I’m making changes.”  Sorry to be so blunt, but it’s the truth. 

Part of these changes was taking full control over my health and fitness.  I want to write a separate post on this and get into more detail about it, but I will touch on it a little bit right now.  I don’t know about any of you, but when I don’t take proper care of myself I just do not feel good.  It makes me extremely tired, unmotivated, sluggish, moody, and then I begin to lack self-confidence.  I honestly think that this had a lot to do with my constant ruts.  I was not eating properly at all.  I would skip breakfast and only eat two meals a day.  I would go to all of these dinners and events and load up on all the food and wine and then I was not working out. I would go running sometimes, but it was not enough.  It just all started to pile up on me so much.  I gained a few pounds and some inches and then I realized that I was “emotionally eating.” The bottom line is that I was not being good to my body like I used to be.  I started to feel really unhealthy and I got sick of it.  I recently started a new fitness and nutrition program on Saturday.  It’s only been a couple of days, but I seriously feel so good already.  I am giving my body enough of what it needs and eating five meals a day.  I have a better understanding of portion control and I am doing full body workouts every day for 30 minutes.  What a huge difference!! I promise to elaborate more on this program very soon, as I would love to share this new fitness journey with you all.

The purpose of today’s post is to just remind you guys that you can make changes, even if they are small ones, to get you back on the right path.  Most of the time there is an underlying issue that we don’t pay attention to once everything begins to pile up on one another.  We have to dig deep within ourselves to figure out what could be the root of it all.  Whether that is your job, family issues, a break-up, a lack of health and fitness, or anything else, I hope that you can come to terms with it and make some changes so that you can get back to a better place.  I know that I have not met most of you, but in a lot of ways I consider you all my Internet friends & FAM.  I share these things with you because I know that if I am feeling this way so are many of you.  If these posts can help at least one person in some type of way, then that is enough for me.  

Sending all my love! <3 

  1. Dab

    Hey babe,
    First of all thank you so much for these life chats posts from these posts I connect myself to you better and yes as asked please write these posts when so ever you are comfortable with, I am always ready for them.
    Well coming to your post you are absolutely right, sometimes we ignore or don't pay attention to the main root of all problems which ultimately pileup everything over us.
    My life going through a real mess these days, and until now I was being so stubborn, irritate, frustrate and you know what I mean because of this people who are close to me are suffering the most, especially my FIANCE I don't know… why I am hell lot of being possessive and irritate both at the same time which is literally creating fights between us every single day.
    I didn't even think that I am going to pull up all together again…
    I just don't know how to mend myself I trust him, I love him it's just… I don't know what is it making me so horrible with my behavior , I hope you know what am trying to say, after reading your post atleast now I am having a feeling that perhaps I can also make positive changes in my life or atleast I should try.
    Suggest me something which can make things better , I don't from where I shall begin?
    am so confused :/
    Thank you my love
    Dab(Damini) <3

    • Hi my love! I am so sorry to hear that you have been going through a difficult time. It can definitely be hard to come out of that and sometimes it might feel like you never will. I promise though that it will happen. I wish I knew the right things to say to make you feel better about what you have been experiencing. All I can say is that maybe you just need to take a step back and view your situation from different perspectives. There has to be a reason why you have been feeling the way that you do and I am sure that in time you will be able to figure it out. Just listen to your heart. Sending you so much love and I hope that everything works out for you! xo

    • Dab

      Yes you are right, all I require is patience and to apply the things you said over myself.., I just can't thank you enough, love you xo!

  2. Love this simple, casual, and stylish look.


  3. Be you, the world will adjust.

    Hey babe..For starters r u kidding me??? Ofcourse we want the chats weekly esp the fact that they've made an impact in ur life.

    I look forward to them personally coz i drift back into my rut every so often when things don't go my way and reading ur posts and others reminds me to get back to focus and not pay mind to the challenges am going through.

    Keep writing and more so write how you feel and what you want without apologies coz that's what makes you stand out and inspire people to be the best version of themselves…P.s. When you get time checkout my blog and let me know what you think.


    • Loved your comment thank you so much for that! I am so happy that you enjoy reading these posts and even more so that you have been able to relate to them. It means a lot to me! I will keep them coming. 🙂 I will check out your blog too! xo

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